15 Messages He Sends That Show He's Losing Interest (+ 5 That Show He's In Love) (2023)

All relationships require work. Sometimes a guy decides the relationship isn't worth it, so he stops trying. Of course, this causes the relationship to deteriorate, but once you decide to let it go, there is nothing anyone can do about it. So how can a girl tell if he's losing interest and what can she do about it? To be honest, there is little she can do about it: no one can force another to stay. With that said, what she can do is determine if he is in the relationship or if he is withdrawing from her.

When a guy starts losing interest, he starts slipping. Make small mistakes and drop hints here and there. If a girl is paying attention, she can spot these cues right away, but at first these cues can be explained away and she may not even notice them.

So what should a woman start paying attention to? Most men show signs of losing interest through their text messages, especially if they're not living with their partner.

Here are the 15 texts he sends when he loses interest, and as an added bonus, don't forget to scroll down to see five texts he sends to show he's still in love.



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It's okay if he responds to a general question or instruction with a simple "k," but when he starts responding like that to most of your messages, he starts to regress.

He doesn't put the time or effort into actually answering you, which means he loses interest. He's either prioritizing something (or someone!) over you, or his feelings are flagging and he's losing interest in you. Anyway, that minimal reaction isn't acceptable from any guy who claims to love you! Talk to him and find out why he isn't texting anymore.

19no texting at all

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Either he is cheating on you or his phone is broken. There are no other reasons for bae to stop messaging you! If it takes a few hours here and there, that's fine because phones are dying, people are watching movies, or they just want uninterrupted gametime. This is not unusual for a man who has an active social life; However, if it's been two days and he still doesn't reply or start messages, something is wrong.

While nobody wants to feel like they're being left to chance, it's also unreasonable to come up with a million excuses for this type of behavior. The best course of action? Find him in real life and find out what happens.

18"Don't worry," but "it" is a big deal

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If something bothers you to the core and he's casual about it, there's a problem. If he tries to play off the situation like it's no big deal but it's absolutely something you care deeply about, then he'll lose interest in you. He's starting to care more about other things than your feelings, and that's never a good sign.

Guys who are still in love will prioritize what annoys their partners. A good guy involved in his relationship expects his girlfriend to be comfortable, so if something is bothering her, she should do something about it. Sorry girls but if you put your feelings aside you lose interest.

17any ultimatum

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First of all, ultimatums shouldn't be normal in a relationship. If things get so out of whack that you or your partner ever feel the need to say, "If you're x, I'm y," then things are already falling apart. Healthy couples converse and come to a satisfactory conclusion.

If he texts you asking you to do something, or if he's about to do something you're unlikely to like, he's trying to exert power over you.

These toxic guys aren't good boyfriend material! If he's acting like a boy, maybe he should date someone who's ready to be his mom. Leave it and go on!

sixteenVague answers to direct questions

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You ask him when he's coming over for movie night, and he texts you like, "I'm not sure, I'll let you know." Something's up. Even if he really isn't sure, he should at least have the decency to tell you that he's at work and busy so it may be a few more hours, or he's stuck in traffic, so will it will be another 30 minutes or so.

If he can't even give you more information about something in particular, then something is wrong with him and he doesn't bother to tell you. He's intentionally vague, and that's not okay.

15'Tráeme X'

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If the only messages you get from him are requests to bring him things, then he's using you. When you send him those long, meaningful messages professing your love and he says, "Thanks by the way, can you come over with some chicken wings?" then he is definitely interested in what you can do for him, not how you feel about him.

While he may not be overreacting, if his answers make you feel a little queasy and hurt by his constant stream of requests, it's time to admit that he really isn't interested in the relationship .

14'That does not concern you'

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There is so much to say about this super rude text! First, he's your man! Of course it's your business! Everything about him is his business, just like everything about you is his! Who thinks they can get away with respecting you like that? If you ask him about something and basically his only answer is to stop sticking his nose where he shouldn't, then you're making a big mistake.

By sending you this type of text, he's telling you that you aren't important enough to know what's going on in his life and if you can't see him pulling away from you, then you have bigger ones problems. on your plate

13More than one or two cancellations of plans

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Sometimes unexpected things happen. People are calling earlier to work or to stay late, there is an unexpected guest from out of town, or there is a family or medical emergency. There are so many reasons why people have to back out of their plans at the last minute, which is normal, it's human.

What is not normal is when it is removed from normal. If you haven't seen him for a few weeks because he keeps making excuses not to see you, he's doing it on purpose. He has lost interest in the relationship and would rather make excuses than be honest with you.

12'Because I said so'

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Wow! What did he just text you? "Because I say so?" Who does he think he is? Any guy who avoids replying and tries to pressure you with a "because I said so" text is an instant red flag! He's trying to get you to agree to something or bend to his will just because he thinks you're crazy enough for him to take advantage of you! Don't be that girl!

Stand your ground, demand some real answers, and do whatever it takes to make him understand that you're not going to believe his bullshit. If he thinks you will, he will be single in a hot minute.

11'It is your birthday?'

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emergency sign. What friend doesn't remember your birthday? You could have put it on your calendar and set your phone to send you a reminder a few weeks in advance so you could plan something nice for your birthday, or you could put it on a calendar the old-fashioned way.

However you remember important dates, you have chosen not to do so on your special day. Although some people don't give much importance to their birthday, if you are not one of them, then you just made a big mistake. He hurt you badly and that's not right. Be sure to let him know.

10'I've already made plans'... with mutual friends without you

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If he's too busy to hang out and you later find out he was having fun with your mutual friends without you, open your eyes! The relationship is a huge red flag! Why would he even want to have fun without you? Why would I go out with mutual friends and not a single person would tip you off? Why would everyone exclude you? There's only one answer: they didn't want you there.

Why should they do this? Because there is something and you need to get some answers or your friend directly said that he wants to hang out without you this time. Either way, you need to figure out what's happening before it explodes.

9'Trust me'

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This isn't a scene from Aladdin where you're about to ride the magic carpet: if he refuses to give you any answers and simply asks if you trust him, then he's hiding something and trusting you're okay with that you stay. back, trusting that I would never hurt you.

If this happens around Christmas, your birthday, Valentine's Day, or some other important holiday, then it's okay to give him some leeway, but the rest of the time he better thinks you deserve to know! If he's acting a little sneaky and showering you with a "trust me" message, it's time to investigate.

8"She's just a friend," but he texts or texts her all the time

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It's great, friends like to keep in touch, but unless she's an old friend who spoke to him regularly prior to their relationship, things are a little suspect. If she's been there for five minutes and he can't seem to leave her alone and vice versa, then something is wrong. She needs to acknowledge how her behavior makes you feel, and if she ignores your feelings or tries to tell you not to worry (but keeps contacting her constantly), then she's already lost interest.

He can't have his cake and eat it too, or he can choose to fight for the relationship or set it free. Anyway, it's going to be quite painful, so be prepared.

7"Don't be afraid, but [insert a bad thing he did]"

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I shouldn't do bad things. Neither should you. Nobody should do bad things! Period! However, when he comes to you to say he did something, it can be taken in two different ways: either he's trying to get by and begging for your forgiveness, or he knows you'll find out eventually and would rather his messenger. than having to learn from someone else.

Either way, you won't be happy with what he did. He didn't even have the courage to tell you face to face! You are starting to lose interest or have lost interest completely or you would not have done anything to jeopardize the relationship.

6'We need to talk'

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This might just be the best "oh no" text message you've ever received from anyone. It immediately gives the recipient of such a message a little panic. "What have I done? What have you done? Are we about to break up? What's up? Why do we have to talk?”

These messages have a cruel reputation and are among the oldest in the proverbial book of separation. He knows this because everyone knows how sharp those words can be. If he texts you that says, "We need to talk," you might as well end the relationship. You have lost interest or are more interested in someone else. Either way, prepare for heartbreak.

5Still in love: 'Good morning'

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A "good morning" text is one of the most important messages a man in love can send. This seemingly simple message is actually code for "You're the first person I think of when I wake up." He waves at you because he can't wait to talk to you! If you've ever seen someone in love, you know they can't be apart for long and they are very excited to see each other.

If your man texts you good morning even if it is not every day, it means he is still in love with you. Your feelings won't fade away anytime soon.

4He is in love: how are you?

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It might seem a bit boring, but a simple "How are you?" the text is really very revealing. He's interested in more than just "What are you up to?" messages every day. By asking how you're doing, he's saying he's interested in what's going on with you emotionally. In fact, it's rare for a man to bother to ask you how you're doing overall.

This is just one of the many ways you show how much you care. Guaranteed, if your man happens to ask how you are, not only is he in love with you, he can't stay away! Just remember to text him to show him you care too.

3He's crazy: 'What do you think?'

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Guys don't randomly ask their girls what they think just because. He rightly wants to know what you think! Everything about you interests him and by this point he has probably learned as much as he can about your life so far, so now is the time to focus on exploring what you think! It will give him a little more information about your personality, your concerns and your interests.

While you don't have to go all out and describe every little thought, it's always a comfort to know that if you ever have something on your mind, you can safely reach out to him and he will actually listen.

2Boy's In Love: "I can't wait to see you"

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When a guy texts you, "I can't wait to see you!" He's not just joking, he really can't wait. He has you on his mind and is so excited he can't stop himself! Before you meet up on a date, he runs home to shower and get dressed. You put on your favorite perfume and check yourself in the mirror. He can't contain his excitement and his emotions are almost pouring out of his soul!

No man will tell you that he can't wait to see you unless he means business, so enjoy his love and give him something back too.

1He's all yours: 'I love you'

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Any guy who says he loves you probably means it! If he keeps telling you how he feels, it might not be as sincere as it should be, but for a man who does tell you in person and via text message from time to time, he really means it. You can see that he's still genuinely in love when he sends those little "I love you" reminder texts at random times.

If you are having a stressful week, he will take the time to remind you that he is there for you and loves you with all his heart no matter what while the rest of the world falls apart. Don't take his words for granted, he really loves you.


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Show genuine interest in him to put him at ease.

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